We all have a need to be “on” and we’ve all been conditioned to do a good job of keeping out of trouble. We all want our boss to like us, or that other person in our social circle who seems to get along with us. We want to feel good about ourselves. And we even want to feel good about our job when we’re doing it.
This is called “motivation” or “motivation-boosting”. It’s an internal need to feel good about ourselves. It’s a good thing. Motivation helps us not to feel bad about ourselves. It helps us to stay on task instead of letting our mind wander. As long as we are in control of our own minds and bodies, we can’t really do anything bad.
Not exactly true. When we feel bad about ourselves, we often lose our motivation. Sometimes it is a good thing though. One study of high-school students found that those who felt good about themselves were more likely to want to do well in school. They also had more incentive to do better.
But as you can imagine, feeling bad about yourself is a big turn-off. That’s why we often keep ourselves busy and productive. By doing something we are doing something to self-improve and we are not letting our minds wander.
We need to let our minds wander if we are going to feel good about ourselves. The mind is a very powerful tool our brains use to make sense of the world around us. We use our own minds to determine our worth, to make our own choices and to make our own decisions. Our minds also make us feel good about ourselves. We don’t go to college to become a lawyer or a doctor.
For many of us, our minds are our best friend. When we go out to do something, we take the mind with us so that we dont have to go through the stress of asking friends for advice. When we go out to eat or buy clothes, we take the mind with us so we dont have to think about the decisions we have to make. In fact, so many of us are so busy that we are not even aware that we are doing anything at all.
While this may sound like an overreaction from a young girl, I think it is a great example of how our minds are our best friend. We don’t want to be bothered by a friend who might ask us to do something, not because we are the friend, but out of obligation. As I mentioned earlier, I believe that we all have our own unique “minders.
I think this is one of those situations where we can all agree that the best way to handle it is to just say “no.” It is quite possible that she’s busy, she has her own business to run, she is very busy, or she is too busy to respond to our messages. We can also say “oh, sorry, I’m busy.” But at least we have the option of saying something.
Ok, in all seriousness, it’s not that we can’t help, but that we don’t want to be bothered. So if shes busy, we can say that and she can ignore us. If she has no business running her own business she can say we are busy so we cannot help. If she is too busy to answer our messages, well, we can say we are busy too.
If you know your business, you can probably get away with saying we are busy if you don’t have a message for us to read. But if you are so busy that you can’t read the message we sent you, you should probably take a rest.