I’ve made that mistake too many times. I’ve thought about something but then I’ve decided not to do it. So what happens? I decide not to do something; I make excuses. It’s a vicious cycle.
It is. The reason being is that in the process of making excuses, excuses often become excuses. So when we say our excuses, we are often giving excuses that we think are excuses, but they aren’t.
Excuses are the “bad guy” role we put our actions under. They are a way to convince ourselves that we are doing something when we are not. For instance, we convince ourselves that we will not drive to our favorite restaurant to eat dinner because we feel bad about eating at home. We convince ourselves that we are not doing something because we feel so bad. So, in the end, we are less aware of what we are doing.
I think that if we are to improve our awareness of what is going on in our lives, we need to stop blaming others for our problems. Instead, we should be able to recognize what we need to do to address our problems so that they are more manageable.
Sometimes we feel guilty about our problems because we can’t seem to do anything about them. In this case, we have probably just lost a loved one. We might not even be able to work out what we did wrong (but it probably involves alcohol or drugs). To the people who are still grieving, we might be trying to get revenge. We might be trying to get back at someone for something they said or did.
In this case, we have probably just lost a loved one. We might not even be able to work out what we did wrong but it probably involves alcohol or drugs. To the people who are still grieving, we might be trying to get revenge. We might be trying to get back at someone for something they said or did.
Well, it’s hard not to be a bit sympathetic to the guys who have to cope with a loss. We may not be able to work out what happened, but we can at least make sure it’s not a booze or drug-related loss. The way we can do that is to not do anything that might make it seem like we’ve lost a loved one, and to give each other a bit of space.
We all know that the reason we don’t always manage to forget the reasons we’ve lost someone is because, well, it’s our fault, like everything else in life.
While this is a tough point to tackle, I do want you to consider the fact that we are all in this together. We all know that in our hearts, we love people who have left us, and we all know that we are not in control of the way our lives turn out. If we want our lives to be filled with love, laughter, and joy, we need to keep our minds on the things that matter to us.
We all need to remember that this is a life and death situation. No matter how much we want to believe that our lives are perfect, they aren’t. We all need to stop giving a damn about things that don’t matter. We all need to stop taking our joy for granted.